Months later, I finally understood that I had nothing to do with his affairs. My self-blame turned into compassion for myself and for him, and my shock led me down a path of healing.
Nearly eight years later, I am a changed woman, committed to sharing my story so that others can also heal. My story is an opportunity for the other side of addiction—those of us who love the addict--to be heard. We are seen as the sane survivors, the population without the problem, but we lose to the addiction, too. The effects of sex addiction cross every cultural, economic, and educational paradigm. I am one such statistic.
I have had the opportunity to share my story with hundreds of people and the reactions have been powerful and confirming. Recovering addicts have approached me with tears in their eyes, pleading that I publish my story. They gained new insight into how their addiction contributed to their partner’s anguish, and partners were relieved to know that healing was not only possible, but could really bring joy to their lives. People who hear my story recognize it as a powerful message from a survivor who is thriving.
“Some men choose their sexual addiction over a
great marriage and great children. This is a story to encourage those
women to create their own happy ending.”
- Douglas Weiss, PhD
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Cover iIllustration by Amelia Morgan, an artist trained
at Scripps College.
Photo © Jennifer Esperanza. Work available at www.jenniferesperanza.com
